Happiness is THE future of work.

Happiness is THE future of work.

By Karen Guggenheim, WOHASU CEO

Happiness is THE future of work and corporate social responsibility initiatives are a significant driver towards this new reality. Through CSR, employees feel connected to company values, giving them a sense of purpose and creating opportunities for them to give back. This altruism loop of giving to others has been proven to increase both individual and collective happiness.

Integrating Happiness with a Coach

Integrating Happiness with a Coach

By Luke Iorio, Certified Professional Coach and President of iPEC and One Idea Away

During the Summit, I had asked everyone, “What is happiness to you?” While there is more evidence than ever before of the impact happiness has in our lives, and a multitude of specific avenues and interventions that help move our happiness forward, happiness itself is a personal experience that must be intertwined with your values, experiences, desires, and beliefs.

Whenever we want to create something in our lives, it requires a process of engagement and integration. Engagement means that you have the desire, conviction, and commitment to put your energy into whatever it is that you’d like to have more of — in this case, happiness (according to a vision of happiness that you shape). The next step, which we teach in iPEC’s foundational Life & Leadership Potentials Training, is to take that engaged energy and translate it into the specific action and creation of new experiences that are more aligned with the life or career (or business, health, relationship, etc.) that you wish to have. It’s that last piece that takes vision, desire, and new learning and integrates it into a new way of being and living.

The Summit is a beginning point that provokes your mind, in wonderful ways, with new trusted ideas and insights. And now it’s up to you to personalize that education, engage with it, and build your commitment to what you wish to move forward.

And that’s where coaching comes in. Coaching is an interdisciplinary field that helps individuals enhance their self-awareness, expand their consciousness, and build their engagement and commitment in a process to achieve a vision or goal. Then, working
together, they design a personalized course of action that makes use of the individual’s unique traits, values, character, and experiences.

One of the Tribe Coaches at WOHASU, Amanda Kaufman, reflected on her experience of being coached: “Coaching has allowed me to critically examine the thoughts and beliefs that I live by, and allowed me to examine new and different possibilities for the way my life is designed.
Since having a coach, I have changed careers, finally prioritized my health, and reinvigorated my marriage. I am happier!”

Coaches aren’t there to provide you the answers (because they are YOUR answers not THE answers) but certainly coaches have a depth of experience to aid along the way. Their role is to use processes, expertise, and a methodology to help you uncover your way to your vision—the life that you wish to experience.

As Julie Beckerman reflects for herself: “Happiness is freedom. Coaching is about exploring all the ways that I can be freer – to explore what I’m ready to explore so that I can be all the parts of myself through all the different and unique ways I express who I am. Working with a coach allows for that, encourages that, helps bring it out of me, and then celebrates as it shows up. Ultimate freedom of the self is my ultimate happiness.”

You had the chance to connect with coaches as your Tribe Facilitators during WOHASU. We strongly encourage you to follow-up with your coaches — ask them for an initial complementary strategy session and see what emerges for you. If you need to connect with a coach (or find the one you met at WOHASU), then you can find the list of coaches with their backgrounds and contact information on the website: https://happinesssummit.world/coaches.

Lastly, you invested time and money to experience this great event in Miami. Turn the inspiration and education you’ve just had into choices and actions that will make 2018 your happiest year yet. Whether it’s with a coach, a program, or do-it- yourself personal project, get into motion. You deserve it!

Have a happy year!




Featured: Guitars Over Guns, Pinqy Ring Finds Healing through Rap Music

Featured: Guitars Over Guns, Pinqy Ring Finds Healing through Rap Music

Pinqy Ring has Found a New Life in Healing through Rap Music

“Healing is OK and being vulnerable is OK, and that’s one of the things I want to share in my music,” said Marisol Velez, a Chicago-born and -bred rapper who performs as Pinqy Ring.

Velez has seen it all, but music — and rapping specifically — was not a passion until she reached high school. After a mostly quiet freshman year at Lane Tech, she made new friends who shifted her whole life. Velez said she grew up in a strict, religious household, which ultimately influenced her interests as a young adult. Hip-hop was not allowed; even gospel music was off the table. “Anything that made you kind of want to move your body even a little bit was the devil’s music,” Velez said about her youth.

Her strict upbringing made her rebellious as she got older. Velez describes this time as her at her worst. She regularly hung out on the streets and did whatever she felt like doing. Rapping was a casual hobby between Velez and her friends, who were mostly male at the time.

A near-fatal car accident during her freshman year at the University of Illinois at Chicago shifted her life again. Velez woke up from a coma in Cook County hospital with broken teeth, a broken nose and a bruise on her brain.

“Seeing myself like that and not recognizing myself, I realized that could have been the end of my life,” Velez said. “Seeing that and the pain my mom was in kind of made me realize I can’t keep living my life this way. I have this opportunity available to me to really tell my story and share my narrative and who I am and what I’ve been through. You know, change the world one day.”

Velez describes it as one of a series of essential shifts and affirmations in her life. “Being in the music industry and being a woman in the music industry, it’s so hard that I’ve quit seventy eleven times already,” she joked. “But then something will happen that will reaffirm this is my path and this is what I’m supposed to be doing.”

This life-or-death experience made Velez not only abandon her teenage rebellion; it also changed the type of music she aimed to create. Her earlier rhymes were braggadocian, but her post-accident lyrics aimed at something more personal and vulnerable. If Velez genuinely wanted to share her gifts as an MC to the world, she wanted to leave behind a body of work both raw and radical. “I wouldn’t have been given a second chance at life if being open wasn’t what I’m supposed to be doing in life,” she added.

For example, on the track “Little Hearts,” released three years ago, Velez tackles the uncomfortable, often ignored subject of childhood sexual abuse. Many people questioned the MC over her subject matter, but she doubled down, emphasizing how important it is to address the deepest and darkest parts of our histories. Since releasing the track, the rapper said many young women have reached out to her to thank her. Some shared with Velez their own stories for the first time.

Sharing narratives of social justice and equality continues to play an essential role in her music career. She works as a site coordinator for Guitars Over Guns, an art mentoring program serving youth in underserved neighborhoods in Chicago. She’s also a participant of Next Level, a cultural exchange program sharing hip-hop across the globe and sponsored by the U.S. Department of State’s Bureau of Educational and Cultural Affairs. Sharing her specific vision of hip-hop as a healing storytelling medium around the world is all part of the plan. “I’ve put both feet on the ground with dream held tightly in my hand,” Velez said. “This is what I have to do.”

Source: http://www.chicagotribune.com/entertainment/music/ct-ott-chicago-music-pinqy-ring-1201-story.html

Featured: The Miami Foundation Fuels the Continued Burst of Creativity Energy

Featured: The Miami Foundation Fuels the Continued Burst of Creativity Energy

The Miami Foundation Fuels The Continued Burst Of Creative Energy In Miami’s Arts Community With $300k In Signature Grants

Greater Miami is booming with arts, culture offerings and creative people crafting their own, unique livelihoods through a wide spectrum of pursuits. As they shape Miami’s cultural, social and economic vitality, The Miami Foundation recognized that helping artists build community has become essential. As part of its 50th Anniversary celebration on Wednesday, November 29, at the Adrienne Arsht Center, The Miami Foundation celebrated six arts and culture organizations that stand out for creating experiences that build community. The Foundation’s “Creativity” event showcased local talent and spotlighted nonprofits that received $50,000 each, or a total of $300,000, as part of The Miami Foundation’s 50th Anniversary Signature Grants.  This investment provides resources to nonprofits developing spaces where “creatives” can pursue new ideas, products, technologies and social solutions. The event was the culmination of a year in which the Foundation has made $1 million of signature philanthropic investments in Miami nonprofits. Miami’s music scene was front and center as the 150 attendees enjoyed performances by the Miami Arts Studio student a cappella group, The French Horn Collective and Yoli Mayor of “America’s Got Talent” fame. Rick Schatz, The Miami Foundation’s board chair; Javier Alberto Soto, president and CEO of The Miami Foundation; and Jorge M. Pérez, chairman and CEO of The Related Group, gave remarks on how the arts shaped Miami’s past, present and future. To create a truly prosperous community, we must strive to make equity a priority,” Soto said. “Each of our grant recipients were selected because they are using the arts and creative spaces to break down barriers in our community and to bring people together across geographic, racial, ethnic and economic lines.  Doing this builds understanding and empathy in ways that are key to the development of an equitable and just society.” Soto announced the $300,000 in signature grants to the following nonprofits: – Adrienne Arsht Center: The Arsht Center leads Miami in tackling community challenges through the arts. As it enters its second decade, the Center is poised to magnify its impact on the Miami community, activating a public town square as a space where creatives can connect and dream together. – Guitars Over Guns: GOGO is building the lives of youth through music and the arts and mentorship. Since launching in 2008, they’ve served more than 2,000 local youth – 99 percent of whom have been promoted to the next grade and graduate on time. – Miami Book Fair  (staff and board pictured above): For over 30 years, Miami Book Fair has been one of Miami’s flagship cultural traditions. As its motto says, it is “Building Community: One Reader at a Time.” Beyond the annual eight-day festival, the Fair hosts a variety of year-round programming in English, Spanish and Creole. – New World Symphony: Since its founding, New World Symphony has launched the careers of more than 1,000 musicians through its fellowship program. With the symphony’s outstanding programming and opening of New World Center and SoundScape Park, it has brought a new cultural vitality, contributing to Miami’s reputation as a world-class destination for the arts. – O Cinema: The community-based arts house has created a space showcasing films that would otherwise not be shown in Miami and opportunities for the city’s diverse communities to see themselves reflected on screen. – Pérez Art Museum Miami: A central destination on Miami’s cultural map, PAMM promotes progressive arts education, builds community and contributes to downtown Miami’s revitalization. Through its Knight Schools Program, all Miami-Dade County Public School students receive free admission. PAMM takes the museum experience beyond the museum’s walls and into the community with outreach programs countywide. In 2017, $1 million in 50th anniversary signature grants went to organizations with a legacy of innovation and success in both tackling Greater Miami’s most pressing challenges of the past and helping mold a prosperous future. In January, the Foundation announced grant recipients celebrating its Legacy; in June, recipients creating Opportunity for residents; and in October, recipients ensuring Greater Miami’s Resiliency – each nonprofit organization received at least $50,000 to continue expanding their work and the number of residents they serve.

Why “Happily Ever After” Doesn’t Just Happen

Why “Happily Ever After” Doesn’t Just Happen

Healthy habits build long-term happiness.

In fairy tales, Prince Charming meets a fair maid.  They fall in love and live “happily ever after.”  End of story.  It’s interesting that the relationship only begins just as the fairy tale ends.  What would happen if the story continued? We’d likely see that a lot of these so-called storybook romances aren’t as sustainable as the characters would like to think.  And many of them that suddenly started with magical sparks would quickly end in a puff of smoke.  Perhaps Prince Charming would no longer seem quite so “charming” to his not so fair maid who ends up falling for his best friend.

Okay, let us be clear that we are not against fairy tales or romance.  It’s just that the way relationships are often portrayed in popular culture does disservice to most couples.  There is no magic wand, glass slipper or fairy dust that we can rely on to give us our fairy-tale ending.  And “happily ever after” doesn’t just happen.

In real life, lasting love takes some effort.

When our relationships don’t measure up to the impossible ideal we see promoted and heralded everywhere we may feel utterly deflated.  We soon realize that our prince or princess charming is actually a mere mortal.  Imagine that!  Why is it that we often rely on unrealistic expectations and wishful thinking when it comes to matters of the heart?  In every other domain of our lives we are taught that it’s work and effortful doing that lead to sustainable results.

In our professional lives, for example, we don’t expect that landing our first job will immediately lead to a flourishing career.  Similarly, when it comes to our health we don’t presume that simply purchasing a gym membership and exercising one time will result in a toned and fit body overnight. With both of these endeavors we spend countless hours, days, months — even years — practicing and building new skills, and putting in the necessary work, whether that be taking training classes, or training at the gym.  We regularly challenge ourselves by setting new work and fitness goals to enhance our performance.  Many of us pair up with mentors in our professional lives who help us navigate corporate culture.  And we hire personal trainers to take our fitness levels up a notch and guide us along the way. When we hit a plateau or feel bored — which of course at times we do  — rather than give up, or switch jobs or gyms, we figure out novel ways to spice up our work and our workouts to keep us engaged.

So why when it comes to relationships ­— possibly the single most important factor to our well-being — do we seemingly leave the “ever after” to chance?  Do we think that once we are married or committed to our wonderful partner, we will be able to coast merrily along on the initial burst of warm feelings and ride together into the sunset?  We are never told the details of what leads to “happily ever after” in storybook romances, and since there is no manual that comes with commitment (if only there were!) many of us are left struggling in the dark wondering what went wrong when the relationship of our dreams just doesn’t happen.

So where can we turn to for advice on what makes a couple happy together?

While there’s no definitive list of dos or don’ts or twelve simple steps to achieve a perfect relationship, there are some promising findings based on the science of positive psychology to help build a healthy connection. We are pleased to introduce this inaugural blog based on an upcoming book we wrote on the same topic. Rather than fixing what’s wrong in relationships, our posts will focus on what’s going right in our relationships and the steps we take can take to further strengthen them. Specifically, we will discuss healthy habits that couples can cultivate to become happy together over the long term.  Some of the topics we will address include:

  • Distinguishing between a healthy and harmful passion
  • Understanding and prioritizing positive emotions
  • Savoring shared experiences with one another
  • Identifying, building, and appreciating our strengths and those of our partner

We look forward to sharing latest research as well as real-life anecdotes from couples and attendees of the Romance and Research (TM) workshops we’ve presented internationally over the years.  And we welcome your feedback and comments.

Imagine what would happen if we put a fraction of the work into our relationships that we do into other domains of our lives.  We might just increase our chance of becoming happy together.

While we don’t believe in fairy-tale endings, we do believe in forging brave, new beginnings.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happy-together/201710/why-happily-ever-after-doesnt-just-happen

Does Your Partner Complete You or Inspire You?

Does Your Partner Complete You or Inspire You?

The key distinction between relationships that perish and those that flourish.

In a famous scene from the Oscar-nominated film Jerry Maguire, dashing leading man Jerry — a successful and handsome sports agent played by Tom Cruise — suddenly returns to his estranged wife. He proclaims to Dorothy, portrayed by Renée Zellweger, “You complete me.” Touched and teary-eyed after his declaration, she is transfixed and tells him, “You had me at hello.”

Now contrast this famous scene with an equally popular one from another critically-acclaimed film, As Good as It Gets, in which Jack Nicholson plays Melvin, a curmudgeonly writer. He’s on a date with Carol, a warm-hearted and witty waitress portrayed by Helen Hunt. Carol remarks to Melvin that when she first met him, “I thought you were cute, but then you spoke.” Up to this point, their relationship has been struggling at best — certainly not what a storybook romance is said to be. Despite his best intentions, Melvin usually annoys Carol rather than uplifts her. In what seems like a final attempt to win her over, he tells her, “You make me want to be a better man.” She is rendered speechless.

These two famous move scenes, that we discuss in our upcoming book, Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts (TarcherPerigee, January 16, 2018), present two markedly different reasons for being in a relationship. Jerry feels that Dorothy is his other half, and he’s not complete without her, whereas Melvin wants to be with Carol because he sees her goodness, which motivates him to become better himself.

Take a moment to ponder your own romantic relationship ­­— or the one you’d like to be in — and your reasons for being in it. Are those motivations more similar to Jerry’s or Melvin’s?

“You complete me.”

Jerry’s motivations seem to be synonymous with what we may think of as a storybook romance — the romantic notion that there is one ideal person somewhere out there who will “complete” us and lead us to happily ever after. This popular concept of a soul mate figures prominently in literature, poetry, religion, and philosophy. It is often referred to as that deep connection we have with someone whom we feel immediately “gets us” like no one ever did and like no one else ever could. Sometimes it’s love at first sight. We, of course, do experience and appreciate deep connections. And we understand that they may happen early in a relationship.

However, we also realize there may be dangers if we are searching for a soul mate whom we expect will forever complete us. One danger is that it may lead us to think that our perfect partner is somewhere out there, and that fate will bring us together. This view doesn’t involve any intentional action on our part, but instead leads to us wait around for romantic lightning to strike. We can see how this idea is unhealthy in that it doesn’t encourage us to work on our own self-development or practice the necessary interpersonal skills to prepare us for a relationship. (As we mentioned in our first post, happily ever after doesn’t just happen. It takes work.)

Another potential pitfall of the notion of someone “completing” us is that it may lead to codependency, in which we come to rely on that person for all of our needs. Instead of growing and learning, we lean on that person to make up for what we are lacking. We don’t mature, and our relationship stagnates. Healthy relationships, however, are characterized by a type of interdependence. Rather than “completing” us, our partners “complement” us. In this type of relationship, we stand tall together and are open to one another. We feel whole in ourselves, while appreciating the strengths of our partner, and we benefit from a mutual giving and receiving of support. We grow individually and as a couple.

Jerry Versus Melvin?

If you had to predict whose relationship would thrive, would it be Jerry’s or Melvin’s? While Jerry’s proclamation is passionate, his motivation is self-oriented. He values Dorothy instrumentally, because she completes him. We suspect that if she stops completing him, he will stop loving her.

Our bets are on Melvin and Carol, whose relationship is based on goodness. As Aristotle argued, this type of friendship is ideal, and so it’s what we have coined an “Aristotelian” relationship. Melvin sees the goodness in Carol, in the way she interacts with her customers at work and lovingly cares for her sick child, not to mention the tenderhearted way she treats him, rather than merely tolerating him. Melvin values this goodness, and it motivates him to become better himself.

As Aristotle explains, when we are in the company of people with good character, we tend to improve our character as well. Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt refers to these experiences as being moved or “elevated” by seeing “acts of virtue or moral beauty.” Elevation, an “other-praising” emotion, brings about warm feelings in us, opens our hearts, and shifts our focus from ourselves to others.

This is what Melvin experienced. Carol’s goodness had a visceral and virtuous effect on him. By the end of the film, we see a stark difference in him. The once self-involved character with the hardened heart now shows compassion toward his neighbor and has indeed become a better man.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happy-together/201711/does-your-partner-complete-you-or-inspire-you